If everything goes my way, then I will be happy 🙂
Do your feelings depend on other people and events? If everything happens the way it’s supposed to, then you get to be happy? If things don’t go your way, do you have no choice but to be angry, upset, frustrated? Have you ever said or heard someone say, ‘I want to get in better shape or be more successful, but I’m just not motivated’? Is motivation like pixie dust, if we are lucky enough to have it, then we will be successful? What determines if you feel motivated? What determines how you feel in general? Can you take control of your thoughts and feelings?
How do your emotions affect your thoughts?
When someone cuts you off in traffic or cuts in front of you in line, how does that make you feel? How do you feel when someone disrespects you? Do you feel angry or upset? How do those feelings affect your thoughts? How do they affect your actions? Do you think about doing things that you would normally never do? Do you ever do things you regret? Are you showing up as your best self or your worst self? What is the cost of reacting this way? Do you have any control over this? Can you take control of your thoughts to help you get what you want in life?
He made me do it!
This was probably one of my most common excuses growing up. When I got caught doing something I wasn’t supposed to do, it wasn’t my fault, my brother made me do it. I didn’t like who I was being when I was angry, I wasn’t showing up as my best self. I wasn’t proud of the way I acted. We don’t necessarily grow out of this mindset. It takes a lot of personal development work to get beyond this reactive mindset and take control of our thoughts.
Can you take control of your thoughts?
It’s easy to get caught up in the cycle of getting triggered by other people and events, reacting and taking actions that are not consistent with our best selves. The results of these actions can come back to haunt us. What if you could interrupt this cycle? Could you moderate how you react to external events and take control of your thoughts and feelings? What if you could feel more positive and empowered on a regular basis? How would feeling that way affect the actions you take? How would consistently taking more positive action affect the results you are trying to achieve?
Interrupt the cycle
The truth is that we can interrupt the cycle. You have the power to change how you feel by taking control of your thoughts. When you think about empowering and inspiring things you tend to feel good and when you feel good, you take actions that lead to better results. You also have the power to give meaning to the things that happen that are beyond your control. They can empower you or destroy you, you decide.
The worst thing that ever happened to you can become the best thing that ever happened to you if you are able to attach an empowering meaning to it. You can reframe it in a positive light and find a way to make the most of it. If you were able to overcome something difficult in your life, you are in a unique position to help other people who are struggling with the same thing. That might be the only positive thing to come out of a negative experience, but the people you are able to help will be grateful for the support you can give them.
Thoughts lead to feelings,
Feelings lead to actions,
Actions lead to Results.
The cycle can spin in either direction. By controlling what you focus on and think about, you can take control of this cycle and allow your thoughts to lead to positive feelings, positive actions and ultimately the results you are looking for. If you are looking for more resources, consider joining the Entre Nation. You can find out more a the link below.
